Hey there, I want to talk to you about marriage. Yeah, I know everyone has their own perspective on how to look at a marriage. Well I am going to tell you MY view on how I look at MY marriage. Know that we are not perfect, we have our arguments and our joyful days. Are you ready? I am want to let you see a marriage through my eyes.
Love is a choice
Our love isn’t a force, we chose to love each other. It takes two. We go out our ways to fill each others needs. There should be no fear in love. When we where in high school my husband now, went out of his way just to bring me lunch. Know that we did not go the same school. Get this our schools were revels to each other! We took risk to fall in love with each other.
Goals in relationship
I was never that little girl who dreamed a big castle wedding. Although, I do have a dream home and it is not cheap. My son and husband right there with me living the reality of my dream home. It wont be perfect with out my family right there by my side. As a married couple all I want is to be married to my husband for a life time, life time of happiness and for us to become one. Putting God first in our marriage.
Five love languages
I have learned in our marriage the words “I love you“ can never be over said.
- Touch – Affection
- Act of service – Help me
- Gifts – Show me you know me
- Quality time – Your undivided attention
- Words of affirmation – Sincerely appreciated
Going on dates have helped us. We talk and get to know each other all over again. We discus on our needs and prevent future arguments.
John 4:8
8 Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love.
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I love this post, thank you for sharing! I’m always interest in learning more about the five love languages and communication with my husband. He is in the military and away a lot so communication is incredibly important for us to maintain a healthy marriage.
Great post! I remember how eye opening it was for me to learn about the love languages and how sometimes you do something that you think will make your spouse feel loved and they don’t feel loved (or might even feel annoyed). It doesn’t take that long to figure out your love languages and it just makes things so much easier!
It definitely does once we know each other’s needs and wants
Xoxo -CYM
Definitely with on you the “love is a choice” part. Something so simple, yet so important to keep in mind.
I love your 5 love languages! Every couple needs a post it with those on it to look at every morning when they are brushing their teeth.
That is such a good idea I usually write little dorky notes for my husband to see in the mornings. Since he wakes up before me 🙂
Xoxo-CYM
I really loved your explanation of the five love languages. So simple, but so important! I’ll have to share these with my husband.
So glad you do.
Xoxo-CYM
This is the best description of love. Love is hard and worth every second.
I totally agree with you Stephanie!
Xoxo- CYM
Now that we both work at home. We have plenty of time to be together,but I am still looking forward to have a nice dinner with him.
Love is absolutely a choice! Even though having kids has definitely changed our relationship, I do my best to show my partner how much I appreciate him every.single.day. The little things add up!
we did a post on our 20 year wedding anniversary, I’m amazed we got there! Love is hard, but wonderful x https://www.thefrugalfamily.co.uk/how-to-stay-married/
How beautiful! I think if I wrote about my relationship a lot of people would be confused lol. I might be able to make some changes and start working more on being a better partner, you guys look so happy together! I want to feel like that before we actually get married. Thank you for sharing 🙂
We go out to eat, or go golfing or kayaking!
You are an example to follow! Thank you for sharing 🙂
Aw thank you 🙂
Marriage is the hardest job, but it gives you the best reward! Great post! I love how your husband did so much for you in high school! How sweet!
this is beautiful, and i hope that if i ever have the chance to be married, my unoin can be as blessed at yours, the last verse john, I love it, it ended your post powerfully! i will keep in mind the the 5 love languages! i pray your marriage stays blessed x
I’m so glad you love it! thank you so much 🙂
Perfect . I think this is something we always look into .God bless u guys …
Very happy you think that way Ruchi, Thank you!
I agree love is not about saying it but you have to show it.
Misly, so glad you agree.
Xoxo- CYM
This is such a great post. We have a date night every Thursday to reconnect.
Thank you so much Lynn. So happy to read that you and your spouse take time reconnect with each other.
Xoxo- CYM
I agree that love is a choice and it’s a choice every day. Certainly has to go both ways. Thanks for this 🙂
So glad you see that way as well 🙂 you are very welcome
Xoxo -CYM
We always have at least one date night a week! Lovely post!
Sonja so good to hear that other couples are taking time for each other!
Thank you Xoxo
This is good. I like this.
I’m so glad you do, thank you!
I’m not much into marriage.. But your relationship sounds beautiful.. God bless you guys! 🙂
Thank you 🙂
Great article buddy.
Very informative and loved this one.
You have written everything perfectly.
Jasmine, thank you so much I’m glad this article was straight forward for you, this means so much!
Love this! The love languages apply to almost everything for me 🙂
Elaine, I agree with you!
Great post! I love the 5 love languages. My husband and looked into that a few years ago and it really helped us understand each other.
Hey there! That is so good to hear that yall did this sooner. Best wishes for you and your love one
We definitely need to do more date nights. It is hard when you don’t live near family (free babysitters) to get in that one on one time.
My husband and I usually try to put our son to sleep early so we can have some alone time an actually have a conversation with out any interruptions.
The five love languages goes for everyone – I often think about them in terms of my children, but I need to expand that and think of my husband too.
I agree with you Heather.
We always have at least one date night a week and spend our evenings together planning and scheming for our goals and future!
Meg I think that’s a great date!
I love this. 🙂 We try to have dinner together every night if possible and catch up.
Sarah I’m so glad you do! I think having dinner together always makes a difference.